Introduction: Marriage is one of the most important decisions in a person’s life, especially when it involves the expectations of family and the complexities of relationships. In this post, a second-year degree student shares her personal dilemma of deciding whether to pursue a relationship with a boy who has shown interest in marrying her, despite significant obstacles.
The Situation: I am a second-year degree student. My family is currently looking for a boy to marry me, but so far, there has been no match. I do not have a father, and I am the youngest in the family, with my sisters already married. My family values my opinion highly when it comes to marriage, and they have asked if I have anyone in mind. They’ve assured me that I can marry whoever I choose.
The Boy Who Wants to Marry Me: Three months ago, a boy who I had previously met for an online job approached me and expressed that he liked me and wanted to marry me. We had some conversations about this, and I told him I was not ready for a relationship. If he truly liked me, I suggested he should propose to my family.
However, there are some complications: he is currently working in a private school and doing coaching, and his job situation is not stable. Additionally, he lives 412 kilometers away from me in North Bengal. He talked to my sister, who suggested that he try finding a job in Dhaka. He mentioned that he would leave his family and move to Dhaka to be with me, provided he can send money back to his family. Yet, his mother is not supportive of our marriage due to the distance.
The Family Situation: I haven’t met him in person yet, although that might happen soon. His family’s lack of support is a significant factor, and I worry about the challenges that might arise in the future. I have told him that if he wants to marry me, he should find a stable job in Dhaka, as his current job wouldn’t be enough to support a family. He seems determined, but I am unsure about the reality of his commitment.
What Should I Do? My family will support whatever decision I make. However, the boy’s family is not on board with our marriage, and I am unsure whether this relationship would work out in the long run. Should I give this relationship a chance, or should I move on? I feel conflicted and anxious about the future, not knowing whether we can overcome these obstacles.
Conclusion: Love and marriage are complicated, and it is essential to consider all factors before making such a significant decision. It’s understandable to be cautious when faced with challenges like family approval, financial stability, and distance. As I reflect on my situation, I realize I need to be sure of what I want and whether this relationship is truly in line with my goals for the future.