A Love That Started with a Dream
I have loved a girl for the past two years. At first, she didn’t agree to be with me, but over time, we started talking. We didn’t meet for an entire year, and when we finally did, our connection deepened. However, there were phases where we barely spoke for months, and she even broke up with me. Despite that, we kept coming back to each other, going through multiple cycles of relationships.
At the beginning, she shared her dream with me, and I promised to be by her side. She told me that if she didn’t marry me, she would feel like she had committed a crime. In return, I assured her that I would fulfill her dream. She said she would marry me once I became successful. With that commitment, I dedicated myself to building my future, keeping her words close to my heart. I even told my family about her, and she did the same with hers.
A New Chapter: Moving Abroad
Nine months ago, I moved from Bangladesh to another country. Here, I am studying and have secured a good job, Alhamdulillah. I believed I was working towards our shared future, but something changed.
I started noticing that she no longer wanted to talk to me properly. When I confronted her, she admitted that she didn’t enjoy talking to me anymore. But I couldn’t accept that. I kept insisting on communication, hoping things would go back to the way they were. Instead, she grew more distant, telling me that she was tired of it all.
Struggling to Let Go
Now, she tells me repeatedly that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me and that I am being annoying. Every time I reach out, I end up feeling humiliated. Despite knowing this, I still send her messages because I can’t bear the silence.
When I talked to my mother about it, she advised me to keep my distance. She believes that if I step back, maybe she will realize my worth. But the hardest part is actually keeping my distance. How do I stop reaching out to someone I love so deeply?
The Dilemma: Holding On or Moving Forward?
I am at a crossroads. Should I continue to fight for this relationship, or is it time to let go? If keeping my distance is the right thing to do, how do I find the strength to do it?
Love is never easy, especially when distance and emotions are involved. But sometimes, stepping back might be the only way to truly understand where we stand in someone’s life.
To those who have been in similar situations, how did you handle it? Is keeping distance really the best way to know if love still exists?