How It All Started
I am a third-year honors student at National University. I have been in a relationship with a boy who liked me since 2019. He once told me that when I settled down, he would send a marriage proposal to my house, but at that time, I never took it seriously.
In January last year, he emotionally convinced me to accept his proposal. Initially, I had no feelings for him, but over time, I fell in love. I believed that love was about accepting each other wholeheartedly, without focusing on superficial aspects.
His Perspective on Appearance
I am 5’5” tall with a medium complexion, and I consider myself average in looks. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is also 5’5”, fair-skinned, and showing early signs of baldness. However, I have never commented on his appearance because, for me, such things do not matter in a relationship.
Despite this, he frequently boasts about his fair skin and has directly commented on my complexion. At first, I ignored these remarks, thinking they were unintentional. However, when it became a repeated pattern, it started affecting me. He often compares our looks, making remarks about my skin tone while simultaneously expressing insecurities about his own height and hair loss.
A Pattern of Immaturity
On multiple occasions, he has asked if my family would accept him because of his height and receding hairline. He worries about what my friends might think, yet continues to make unnecessary comments about my appearance. I have reassured him countless times that I love him for who he is, but his words often overshadow my feelings.
Today, during a video call, he once again made an insensitive remark about my skin. At first, I remained silent, but when tears welled up in my eyes, I ended the call and went offline. Later, he sent a voice message claiming he was just joking and trying to provoke a reaction from me.
Can This Relationship Have a Future?
It makes me question how a 27-year-old man can have such an immature mindset. What kind of behavior is it to repeatedly comment on someone’s appearance, especially someone you claim to love?
I wonder if I can truly shape my future with someone who lacks maturity and sensitivity. A relationship should be built on love, respect, and understanding—not comparisons and insecurities.
To those reading this, have you ever faced a similar situation? How did you handle it? I am at a crossroads, and I need to decide what is best for my future.