I am a 25-year-old girl, currently pursuing my Master’s from a public university. I met a guy through an online platform related to marriage with the intention of finding a life partner. He works at a bank.
When we met for the first time, he behaved so well that any girl would be impressed. That day, he told me he liked me and asked if we could meet again. Without thinking much, I agreed.
We met again 2-3 days later. This time, he came very close while talking, unlike our first meeting where he maintained a respectful distance. Suddenly, he took my hand, which surprised me. On our third meeting, we went to watch a movie. I was completely shocked when he held my hand, touched my neck, and insisted on actions that made me uncomfortable. I couldn’t say anything directly because I am not good at expressing my feelings in such situations.
I wanted to know his intentions about marriage. He assured me that he would marry me and even mentioned bringing his uncle and cousin to my house. However, months passed, and his uncle never came because he had gone home for some work.
Over time, I noticed some unsettling behaviors. When we were outside, he would often look at other girls inappropriately. It seemed impossible for a girl to pass by without catching his attention. Once in an elevator with a beautiful girl, he kept staring at her the entire time.
Through one of his Facebook friends, I learned that he had promised to marry another girl in 2020 but didn’t keep his word. He seems to have been involved with many girls, and according to his sister, he wants to marry whoever he is currently seeing. He also told me about a previous marriage that ended because he was forced into it, and despite trying to win her back, he couldn’t succeed. He mentioned that if he likes something, he makes a lot of compromises.
Eventually, I stopped communicating with him, but he continued to call me persistently. He even expressed his willingness to come to my house immediately to discuss marriage. I felt confused again. After speaking to a girl who works at his bank, she mentioned that he was a bit peculiar, although she didn’t elaborate.
Many girls who know him have shared their experiences, stating that he has been involved in multiple broken engagements. When we met, he often tried to get physically close, but after I refused, he stopped. He seems very indecisive and distracted, frequently using his phone to talk to friends and family during our meetings.
During one of our meetings, a girl named Rima called him multiple times. He claimed she was his niece, studying in class 9. Later, I discovered through Facebook that Rima was actually a Master’s student.
It’s been six months since we met. I have refused his proposal, but he keeps calling me. Since it’s been a long time, I sometimes feel conflicted. He is very helpful to people around him and keeps insisting on marriage. However, I have refused, but he shows strong interest in bringing a proposal to my family.
I sincerely apologize for the lengthy post. I seek advice from those with experience on what I should do in this situation.