Marriage is a significant event in many people’s lives, especially when it involves family and societal expectations. The journey to finding a suitable partner can sometimes feel complicated, particularly when external factors—such as family disagreements and spiritual interventions—create obstacles. In this post, I will share my personal experience with marriage proposals and the challenges I’ve faced along the way.
Early Marriage Talks and Family Resistance
The talks for my marriage began when I was in college, but my father was not willing to get me married so soon. Around 2020, an aunty I knew proposed her son to my family. However, my mother was not willing to proceed with the proposal. Instead, she sought spiritual guidance to help me find the right partner. She found an amulet from a tree and took it to a monk, who gave me an amulet and water to drink, along with instructions to place the amulet under my pillow while sleeping.
The Spiritual Journey
At first, I didn’t follow the monk’s instructions—neither did I drink the water nor keep the amulet under my pillow. Later, my mother consulted another monk, who advised me to do some very unusual things. He told me to break a bone at the intersection of three roads and wear a yellow saree while bathing with rose water for seven days. I wasn’t comfortable with these instructions either, but out of respect for my mother, I followed them. Despite these efforts, nothing seemed to change.
Attempting Marriage, But Facing Challenges
Eventually, I visited yet another monk, who gave me an amulet and some water to tie around my waist. I was also told to hang another amulet on a tree. I didn’t follow those instructions either, but I continued praying and kept up my regular rituals, hoping for a solution. But now, when it seems like a boy is definitely interested and marriage talks are underway, the marriage proposals continue to fall apart.
The Cycle of Rejections and Breakups
In some cases, when the boy’s family liked us, we didn’t feel the same way about them. In other cases, when we liked the boy, the boy’s family didn’t approve. Everything seemed to be going smoothly at first, with one of the families even giving me a ring, but eventually, the marriage proposal ended. One boy I liked also agreed to marry me, and both families gave their consent, but suddenly, his mother disagreed. She was adamant about not having the marriage take place, and eventually, that proposal was dropped as well.
Reflection and Questions
Now, I find myself wondering what the reason behind these repeated breakups is. Why do the proposals keep falling apart, even when everything appears to be moving forward? What is the underlying cause of these rejections, and what is the solution to this ongoing situation?
Looking for Guidance and a Solution
I share this story with you in the hope that you can help me find some clarity or offer advice. I’m unsure whether there is something more I need to do on my end or if the obstacles I’m facing are beyond my control. Should I continue with the spiritual practices or seek other solutions? I’m hoping for some guidance on what to do next.
Conclusion: The Path Forward
Navigating marriage proposals can be a complicated journey, particularly when family dynamics and external factors come into play. It’s important to reflect on both personal and family values, and sometimes, trusting in the process and giving time for things to unfold naturally can be key. If you find yourself in a similar situation, seeking advice from trusted friends, family, or even professional guidance may help in gaining perspective on the situation.
Remember, it’s okay to be patient and allow things to unfold in their own time. You don’t have to force the process, and there is always room for understanding and clarity when you seek it with an open heart.